How to Help Your Boss Help You • Ken Kousen & Trisha Gee

Learn how to build a positive relationship with your manager, effectively communicate your goals and priorities, and resolve conflicts in a constructive way, even when you don't agree on everything.

Key takeaways
  • Don’t assume your boss is a friend, they are your manager.
  • Effective pushback can be constructive and not aggressive.
  • Managers and employees have different priorities and values.
  • Loyalty is not earned, it’s given; don’t assume your boss will prioritize your career.
  • Have a meeting with your manager to discuss your career goals and priorities.
  • Be willing to compromise and find a mutually beneficial solution.
  • Don’t take things personally, separate your personal and professional relationships.
  • Recognize that your boss will not always have your back, but you can still build a positive relationship.
  • It’s not always possible to turn your boss into an ally, but you can try to build trust and understanding.
  • Communication is key to resolving conflicts and building trust.
  • Don’t be afraid to express your concerns and opinions, but do it in a respectful and professional manner.
  • Be aware of your own biases and emotions, and try to manage them when interacting with your boss.
  • Building a relationship with your manager takes time and effort, but it’s worth it.
  • Don’t make assumptions about your boss’s motivations or intentions.
  • Be open to feedback and criticism, and use it as an opportunity to grow and improve.
  • Your boss may not have the same priorities as you, so be prepared to compromise and find a mutually beneficial solution.
  • Don’t take things personally, remember that your boss is your manager, not your friend.