RailsConf 2024 - Pairing with Intention: A Guide for Mentors by Alistair Norman

Pairing with Intention: A Guide for Mentors by Alistair Norman

• Pairing with intention is a deliberate approach to mentorship, focusing on achievable goals and outcomes.
• Define Partnership: Clearly outline the goals, roles, and expectations for the pairing.
• Skip the Excitement: Acknowledge the initial excitement and move forward by setting specific objectives.
• Decide on Touchpoints: Schedule recurring check-ins to track progress and discuss any challenges.
• Be Respectful of Time: Consider the mentee’s schedule and commitments when planning touchpoints.
• Active Listening: Pay attention to the mentee’s thoughts, opinions, and concerns.
• Avoid Intimidation: Focus on empowerment rather than intimidation through knowledge sharing.
• Exploration Over Expertise: Create space for mentees to explore and learn, even if it means venturing outside your area of expertise.
• Early Wins: Celebrate small victories and recognize the mentee’s progress along the way.
• Reflect and Refine: Continuously reflect on the pairing’s effectiveness and refine the approach as needed.
• Acknowledge When it’s Over: Respectfully conclude the pairing when goals are met or the mentorship has run its course.